Is there a psychological cause in women who don't want to make love? How can I increase female sex drive?
When talking about psychological causes of not being interested in
making love, we refer to certain thoughts, feelings or emotions that reduce
the interest in sex. Because of fear and anger, sexual desire may disappear
in certain situations. This may have several causes like fear of
performance, fear of intimacy, fear of excitement, dissatisfaction with
one's own body or suppression of events from childhood. Traumatic
experiences may have a lot of influence on sexual desire. Sad experiences
that haven't been dealt with, like the loss of a partner, nagging and
conflicts in relationships may also influence sexual desire negatively.
Relational problems are often a cause. For all sorts of reasons, partners
may become physically personally less attractive to each other. Differences
in sexual needs and the refusal of partners to respond to advances may lead
to doubts about the self-image of the man, the woman or the self-image as
the beloved partner.
Certain irrational thoughts e.g. that refusing to have sex is the same
as admitting an affair, may lead to a great disappointment or anger. A
reduced interest in sex is also a frequent symptom of various psychiatric
syndromes. The most frequent syndrome is depression. It also turns out
that men and women experience sexual desire in a different way. Women see
love, emotional intimacy and involvement as a goal, while men see sexual
activity as such as the goal. Other factors may also negatively influence
desire e.g psychological problems of the partner, stress and/ or
relational problems. In the first meetings a sexologist will ask about
these possible causes, so that the condition may be identified.