** Re: Marrying my Ex's friend

Hi,
I got divorced one year ago, left the country where my wife and our two kids are residing and I travel back and forth to check on the kids. One of my Ex's friends, who use to work with me as well before I left the country, has been divorced like a year earlier to my divorce and because I knew her and her husband I was close to her and her family offering support. Naturally, our relationship got stronger specially when we started working at the same office some time after as I mentioned. I have to point out that during my divorce Diana, disagreed with my Ex's stand and she was trying very hard to help us sort our differences as a mediator yet things didn't work out and we got divorced.

I have proposed to Jenifer because I have strong feelings for her and for many other reasons; I believe she is a good person and will become a good mother and she will take care of me in addition to my strong desire to take care of her and to give her the children she always dreamed of and could not because her ex-husband did not want kids put on top that I am very much attracted to her.

We are now caught into this situation where she also have feelings for me yet she is claiming that marrying me will have negative re precautions on her family for marrying her friend's Ex's and on my kids cause they will have psychological problems and naturally on her friend.

Through my research on the Internet I found out that somehow marrying a friend Ex's is a taboo according to the American social standards. I am not American, my Ex wife is not American and Diana is American and therefore this subject is a concern for her. I am at the same time a strong believer that no Man can inflict harm on anybody if its not his destiny to be harmed as God is the ultimate benefactor; what we want is not against God's rulings and social standards shall never substitute God's laws.

My questions here are: if we are to marry each other; what do you think are the steps which we would take and what are the things that we should put into consideration in order to have minimal impact on the parties concerned; her family, my kids and my Ex wife? Is there anything valid about about psychological effects which might happen to my kids because I married their mother's friend? They are 5 and 10 years old.

I appreciate your opinion on this and if there are links with more comprehensive information It would be great to include them in your feedback.

Thank you and best regards