We adopted our children 3 years ago son 9 and daudhter 12. The last 3 months or so my daughter has grown very clingy. always wanting to sit on my lap I am the DAd. when i do not let her she gets really upset. She also had her first menstral cycle aweek ago. And has always had a problem with jealousy. Why is thie happenning and what can i do to stop this with the least amount of pain to my daughter?