Marital infidelity

Dear Dr. Palme

I've told this story so many times already I don't know if I have the strength to tell it in detail again.

What it comes down to is that I was unfaithful, had terrible regret. I have strict moral values but totally myself in doing this. I experienced anxiety and total breakdown. I feel that I love the other woman and want to leave my wife. My wife because pregnant during this ordeal. I love my wife and hate hurting her like this. I dont want to be this monster that leaves his wife and child for the other woman, but i feel trapped and unhappy.

My wife knows everything and we are trying to fix the marriage, I dont feel like doing it though?

What am I to do... I hate my responsibility..
Best regards

Torn and nearly dead...

Your wife needs a husband that loves her and wants to stay with her. If you stay with her, she will never find that man. You have to take care of your child.

Infatuation comes and goes. Your infatuation for this other woman may disappear, and you may then regret leaving your wife.

But if you want a divorce, ensure that the divorce agreements compensate your wife, this will also reduce your feelings of guilt.

Talk to your wife and find solutions that are acceptable för her.